90 Day Fiancé: Shekinah Garner Reveals Sarper Güven’s Rules For Her Social Life & Whether He Still Trains Women
Shekinah Garner from 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way has revealed how her boyfriend, Sarper Güven, exhibits controlling behavior and how she’s also controlling him. Shekinah used to be very outgoing and sociable, but meeting Sarper, a fitness trainer from Turkey who claimed to have slept with over 2,500 women, changed her personality. Initially, Shekinah didn’t question Sarper’s past, but as time went on, she became increasingly jealous and asked him to stop working with female clients. Despite frequent fights due to their controlling behaviors, the couple continues to stay together in 2024.
A fan page, realitytv_stories, posted Shekinah’s IG Story discussing her relationship with Sarper and his latest demands. Shekinah revealed that she was going out to dinner with her best friend, Wendy, but she rarely dresses up nowadays because Sarper has discouraged her from being socially active.
She continued, “we had a few discussions about my social life in LA,” adding that he had told her to stay home more. Shekinah justified Sarper’s controlling behavior by saying that he had stopped training females for her. She thinks these are the sacrifices one must make to maintain a healthy relationship.
Major Red Flags In Shekinah & Sarper’s Relationship
Controlling behavior isn’t the only red flag in Shekinah and Sarper’s relationship. The pair is incompatible on every level. When Sarper debuted on the show, he told Shekinah to lose weight. He wanted her to be a certain size. Similarly, he heavily altered Shekinah’s diet, taking advantage of his expertise as a fitness trainer to tell her what to and what not to eat. Apart from choosing her clothes and make-up, the Turkish man also crossed the line by continually bringing up his sexually active past during arguments. Surprisingly, Shekinah doesn’t mind obeying Sarper’s demands.
Shekinah may think that Sarper’s demands are genuine. However, she’s probably lying to herself by justifying his unreasonable demands. While the two cast members have altered themselves for each other, the proportion of their sacrifices isn’t the same. Sarper has just quit training female clients for Shekinah. He hasn’t done anything significant. In comparison, Shekinah has changed her diet, lifestyle, and clothing choices. She is blindly following Sarper’s orders without any independent thought. The 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way alum can’t see that her relationship lacks balance and has too many red flags.
Shekinah and Sarper’s relationship is problematic. They think following each other’s demands will allow them to maintain their bond. However, they don’t realize that the underlying issue is the lack of trust, which suggests that they don’t love each other unconditionally. It isn’t wrong for someone to change for their partner. In fact, people should actively try to determine how they can improve themselves and become more compatible. Shekinah and Sarper aren’t altering themselves out of their kind hearts. The 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way couple seems to be pushing each other to make these sacrifices, which sounds toxic.
